Thursday, May 31, 2012

the Rose

Is there any other flower so prized for it's beauty?  No wonder the rose is a favorite as a floral icon on graves.  The Victorians used the rose in it's different colors as a language all it's own. 
This was known as Floriography. 

To express your love, you would gives roses that were red. A yellow rose on the other hand simply conveyed  friendship.  


An eloquent epitaph
In the cemetery, the most common use of the Rose as an icon is to convey beauty.

I really like the personal epitaph on this grave in Brunswick, ME.

"I love roses, I love pretty things." -Dorothy

Sheer eloquence in it's simple truth.

The rose can be used to convey literal beauty. A husband may use the rose on his wife's grave, speaking to her physical beauty.  

It can also be used figuratively. To convey that a person was beautiful to those around them. Beauty from within, if you will.

The rosebud- always a sad symbol of loss

There is another way that the rose is used as a symbol. 


Look at the development of the flower itself. If a rose is portrayed as a bud, it always symbolizes the life of a child.


The rose bud has not had time to fully bloom. Just as the babe was taken too soon.



Additionally the bud is often shown as snapped off at the stem. The photo below is a wonderful example of this. The grave is that of a young boy, showing us that the rose symbol was used for both boys and girls.

The snapped rosebud








Look carefully, you may see roses tucked into other imagery.  







The stone to the right is a small obelisk.
Notice the dove with a rose bud in it's beak, this too is symbolic of the loss of a child.

The dove and lamb images are frequently used to symbolize children.

The rosebud adds an extra punch to this image.



The stone on the left is found in Belfast, Maine, and sadly has long ago fallen over. Notice the hand of the angel. She carries a rosebud back to Heaven with her. Very subtle how the rosebud was worked into this image.

Breathtaking!

Once the personal information is read on the stone, we realize this is a child of less than 2 years of age and the only child to her grieving parents.

As an icon, the rose speaks to us in many ways. This quote may say it all...

 

"Man is harder than iron, stronger than stone and more fragile than a rose."  -Turkish Proverb






Wednesday, May 30, 2012

Reading Flora on stones

One of my favorite parts of exploring a new cemetery is deciphering the icons on the stones. The stone above is a great example of the use of floral icons. 

In the 1800's and into the early 1900's flora was used to convey personal messages, clues if you will, about the person buried there. This husband and wife stone is a fantastic example of that.


I'll explain.

First take George's side. His flora is the oak leaf. This is a pretty common symbol.

The oak is a prized hard wood which grows slowly but is extremely sturdy. If you look very carefully you will also see acorns. This is a huge clue about George and his life.

As I mentioned the oak grows slowly and takes a very long time before it produces any acorns. Therefore what this image tells us is that George lived a good long life and died at an older age. Couple that with the strength and virtue from the oak meaning. A picture of George begins to develop.

How interesting to learn that a person lived to an old age just by the symbol on a stone. Now, lets look at the other side of the stone.

Bessie's side also says a lot about who she was and how people saw her. One of the first things I noticed was the cross. This of course speaks to her faith. Wrapped around the cross is ivy. This is an important floral icon and deepens the meaning of the cross.

Ivy is one of the few plants that can remain green even when it's subjected to harsh conditions. You can freeze ivy and it will withstand.

This makes it a symbol of immortality as well as faith and fidelity (since it's color remains true). Faith to the church, and no doubt, to her husband as well.

In addition to never changing it's color, ivy also clings to things. It climbs and almost seems to support things as it grows. Therefore it is also seen as a symbol of friendship, attachment, affection and loyalty.

Wow! See how that one plant has conveyed such a beautiful message to us about Bessie?

There is one more plant mixed into her arrangement. It is the fern. Often ferns were pictured growing deep withing shaded forests. It is thought that to seek out a fern was a trek that only the most sincere would take. Even more meaning has now been added .What a fantastic compliment to the symbolism of the ivy. 

I hope you enjoyed my translations. We will not meet George and Bessie, but somehow, I think I know a lot more about who they were.

Thursday, May 10, 2012

the Calendar


30 days have September, April, June and November…  most people learned that little saying as kids to keep straight the months of the calendar that have 30 days from
those that have 31.  But it wasn't always that easy to keep track of the days, there was a time when telling the date was very confusing business. 

This posting will help explain why we sometimes see stones in colonial cemeteries with double dates. The first time I saw a stone with two years of death listed, I thought maybe the family had the stone carved much later and couldn't remember the actual date… then I saw it again and again and knew there had to be a reason for it.


Keeping a calendar has, at times, been pretty complicated. Different cultures have used different ways to mark the passing of years. Had we continued to use the Roman calendar we may have just rung in the new year 2765 a.u.c. The Romans used ab urbe condita "from the founding of the city" – Rome – as their basis for dating.
 
Some cultures used lunar calendars while others, like the Mayans, used their own very unique form of calendar. In fact the Mayan calendar has fueled many end of times conspiracies. Since the Mayan calendar ends on 12-21-2012,  people wonder if it was meant to be a prophecy of sorts.

One thing is true, for centuries the date was subjective to the country you were in at any given time.
The importance of everyone being on the same page became evident as people began traveling around the world. A standard of date keeping became a priority. One of the first very popular calendars was the Julian calendar. This calendar was adopted by Julius Caesar in the year we know as 45 B.C. The Julian calendar consisted of eleven months of 30 or 31 days and a 28-day February (extended to 29 days every fourth year) The calendar was actually quite accurate. It was only 11.5 minutes off the true lunar cycles. But, only just a slight difference in minutes, after significant time, would end up being a difference of days. The problem eventually snowballed. The solstice was off by days. The solution to this problem would come to be found with, of all places – the Vatican…
 

Pope Gregory XIII was the pontiff in Rome from 1572 to 1585.  He would go down in history being known for the man who commissioned the Gregorian calendar, with the help of a Jesuit priest/astronomer Christopher Clavius, who is credited as the chief architect.  To this day, the Gregorian calendar is the international standard for date keeping around
the world. The new calendar more closely aligned with the lunar calendar, fixing the flaw in the Julian calendar, which saw the year as 365 days and 6 hours. The new calendar counted the year as 365 days, 5 hours, and 49 minutes in length.

Now the tricky part… to get the rest of the world to sign onto the new calendar. As you can see from this chart, this change not very well received in some countries. There was much resistance to changing. Not to mention yet another complication that would ultimately lead to the reason that we see double dated grave stones here in America.  

As the chart shows, England was fairly late adopting the Gregorian calendar. It didn't recognize the new method for date telling until 1752. This created a huge problem since other countries had adopted the new calendar centuries earlier. What this meant was that even when they made the switchover, they would still be off the rest of the world's current date by days unless they did something that would shock the people living under British rule.

Here's a fun question you can ask any history buff you know.
"What happened on the date September 2, 1752?"
The answer: Nothing. Absolutely nothing. The sun never rose, no garden was tended, no ships sailed. In fact, you will never see a gravestone dated with that date. Officially, the date never existed. Neither did the 3'rd or the 4'th. In total 12 days were erased from time in order for London to be on the same day as say, Paris was.  The people were stunned. It is said that some thought this was a trick for landlords to get the rent sooner, while others actually thought the King had robbed days off their very life.

But that wasn't the only adjustment made. The Calendar Act of 1750 passed by the British Parliament, also put into effect the changing of the day the New Year would begin. If all this new calendar stuff wasn't confusing enough, Lady Day – March 24'th would no longer mark the changing of the calendar year. The new official start to the year would fall on January 1'st.
                                                                  
With all the reluctance to the adoption of the Gregorian calendar and then the changing of the starting month of the new year, this is why we see double dated grave stones. Immigrants coming here may have still used the Julian calendar or may or may not have celebrated the new year on Jan. 1'st. Russia didn't switch to the Gregorian calendar till the 20'th century. Switzerland began using Jan. 1'st as the mark of the new year in 1579, while they didn't switch calendars until 1760. The stones we see with double dates usually belong to people who died in either Jan, Feb or March.  Since some still believed the new year began in March, while others had signed on to the Jan switch, many put both years on stones for good measure.

Not everyone was comfortable with these changes.
Thomas Jefferson's hand written gravestone details
In fact evidence of this can be seen on the gravestone of one of our countries Founding Father's.

Thomas Jefferson took the time to plan out his gravestone in his will. He chose the type of stone as well as the inscription that he preferred. On the dating of his stone you will see his date of birth listed as:

Born Apr. 2, 1743 O.S.

The O.S. at the end of his birth date refers to "Old Style" calendar dating, another wards a reference to the Julian calendar and March 24'th new year. If you see a N.S. listed by a historical date, this would then refer to "New Style" dating – the Gregorian calendar and Jan. 1- new years.

So you think this is all ancient history? Not quite, in fact we are still making adjustments even in the modern age. 

On December 30, 2011 the Island known as American Samoa had a historic four day work week, instead of five. They "lost " their Friday so as to align their date with Australia.

Hope you enjoyed this post and Happy 2012 (N.S.) Everyone! Make this one a year to remember.

Monday, May 7, 2012

the Cemetery Moon...

Super Moon in Mt. Pleasant Cemetery. 05/05/12
This past weekend, not only did people celebrate Cinco de Mayo, but many went out that evening to witness the 2012 Super Moon.

Living in New England, I grew up hearing some really amazing superstitions and beliefs. Not knowing any better I ended up believing in most of them. Who was I to question Fate?

So very many of these tales concerned death  - what could prematurely speed up it's arrival and those things that were said to surely foretell it.

Even the moon is tied to death folklore.

Growing up part time on an island in the Bay of Fundy, I witnessed first hand the power that the moon has over the tides. The Bay of Fundy is known for have the highest and lowest tides in the world, mix in the new moon and full moon twice a month and you have extra massive tides! These super high tides are also known as Spring Tides. As the water seems to spring up even  higher than normal.

The moon controls the tides in the Bay of Fundy
So what does the moon and tide have to do with the cemetery?

At one time, it was a commonly held belief for those keeping a death bed vigil, that a dying person would only relinquish their hold on life during an ebb tide. (low water) If they made it through the ebb and the water began to once again rise, the person would live until at least the next ebb tide. Then the process of watching and waiting began again. If the person did pass, another custom was that at no time would the body be left alone. I actually have family members alive today that can remember this practice. Even during the overnight hours and until the time of burial, someone needed to accompany the body every single minute.

So, are the veils between the worlds thinner during a full moon? Take a walk through a cemetery on a full moon night... and you tell me.




Tuesday, May 1, 2012

the Elements of an Inscription




Most people know what an epitaph is, right?  Those final thoughts about a person lovingly etched into the bottom of a stone.  But, if I asked you what an EPITHET was, would you know the answer?


What we put on gravestones today greatly differs from what was put on them in the 18'th and 19'th centuries.  There were titles and words used that many of us have no idea the meaning of today.  For instance, there are terms used for a wife that many people are quite unsure of and many times actually offended by.  If you know the meaning of each term, you will realize they simply refer to the order in which the wife died in relationship to her husband.

The first is RELICT. This is a term meaning widow; the husband had died before his wife.




The other frequently used term is CONSORT. This is the one that causes such grief and confusion! It may not even be uncommon for a husband to have two or three consorts all buried next to one another. The term consort simply means that the wife died before the husband, many times in childbirth. Often, men remarried quickly in order to supply their children with a new caretaker. It wasn't even terribly unusual to remarry the sister of a lost wife.

Note: the word often looks as though it is spelled Confort. This is due to the colonial s character

THERE ARE SEVEN BASIC PARTS TO AN INSCRIPTION. 
Not every stone will include all seven, but many do.


1. the Header  - Here Lyes, In the Memory of, Sacred, The Mortal Remains of, etc…

2. the Epithet(s)  – Daughter of, Honored, Rev[erend], Christian, Esq[uire], Faithful Relict, Mason, etc…

3. the Name - Self explanitory.  (although, it can be amusing to pay attention to the older ones.)

4. the Formula of Death  – Who fell victim to, Departed this life, Died, etc…

5. the Date  - Nov 21, 1851, ye Jan 15, 1779, etc…

6. the Age - Aetatis 49, Age 6months and 3 days, etc…

7. the Eulogies  – A Biblical verse, Rest in Peace, May his soul be rewarded, etc… (also sometimes referred to as the Epithaph)



I am always amazed when I find the reason for death listed clearly on a stone. As you can see here, on the stone for this 3 yr old child.

"His death was occasioned by the kick of a horse"










Also very touching is to find a formula of death written as this one was...

"Fell asleep..."




Now that you know all 7 elements, are you ready for a quiz?


Here are a few examples on stones here in Maine. See if you can correctly name all the elements on Stone #1. ( Don't worry I'll provide the answers for #2 )




How did you do? That was a lot of information, wasn't it?

Here are the answers for stone #2
Here lyes dissolving in earth the mortal remains of =  Header
Mrs. Anne Storer =  Name
Wife of =  Epithet
Whose fair form fell a victim to death =  Formula of Death
the 3 day of Nov 1788 =  Date
Having lived 25 years and 6 days =  Age
                                                         ————————————

Stone #2 had no Eulogy / Epitaph. Stone #1 does and I think it is a very interesting perspective on life at that time, it reads…

"Her life was short her days were few but wisdom was to her for gray hairs." 
 
Now you have a good understanding of the parts to a gravestone inscription. Time to grab a camera and a notebook to write down a few good Epitaphs. You may be able to find one of my favorites

"Passerby cast an eye, 

As you are now so once was I, 

As I am now so you will be, 

Prepare for Death and follow me."

 

Take advantage of the good weather so you can get out there and see some of them for yourself!