Benjamin Franklin once said, "Show me your cemeteries and I
will tell you what kind of people you have."
What a
seriously profound quote.
This is where being a taphophile delves into,
cultural anthropology.
For unknown reasons, we all seem to thrive on dark cloaks, secret
phrases and mysterious rituals - we are drawn to the mystique of fraternal
orders. No matter the year, and there are certain truths that will
persist when it comes to people. The things
that drive us as a group...
First: We all want to be remembered.
To be celebrated for the impact we had on those around us. Why else
would we spend so much precious resource - time and money
- building memorials to those who have passed on?
Second: We have a desire to belong.
We are pack animals at heart. At one time we may have lived in groups
for sheer safety and shared resources. But, as time marched on and
we became more successful, that pack mentality continued to
persist. Though, some may say, it developed into more of a
social need and less of a survival need.
One solution to this need was the fraternal order. A fraternal
order is typically defined as a group "whose members are usually
bound by oath and who make extensive use of secret ritual in the
conduct of their meetings." Sometimes they include secret
handshakes and special benefits.
For instance, the picture at the top of this post had an LOL
at the top. In today's world of abbreviations, any 16 year old
would tell you that meant "Laughing Out Loud". The
truth is, it's attributed to a society call the
Loyal Orange
Lodge. The link here will give you more info on this obscure order.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orange_Order
This stone was found in Brewer, Maine.
I found the stone just above in Waldoboro, Maine. A triangle, star, and the words
LOVE – PURITY – FIDELITY. This order was very interesting indeed.
It is the symbol used for The Sons of Temperance. They existed:
A colonial Alcoholics Anonymous if you will.
The first few orders I mention are not that well known but what
about the ones we all recognize? Like the
Freemasons. This fraternal
order is truly ancient. The first text referring to Masonic activity
is dated to 1390, but the first lodge,
Lodge
at Kilwinning was known to exist in Scotland in the late
16'th century. Here in the United States the growth of
fraternal orders exploded after the Revolutionary War until the
Anti-Masonic Movement of the 1820-30's. Again societies proliferated
during the Progressive Era with approximately 600 organizations
existing and 5 million members.
Another well known order is the
Independent Order of Odd Fellows
(IOOF) This is recognized as three rings with F-L-T
(Friendship – Love – Truth) The first order in the U.S. was
started in Baltimore in 1819. A point of interest is that, with all
of their various activities, the Odd Fellows were known to have
begun and maintained cemeteries in various states.
Also worthy of mention, is that
often times people chose to belong to more than one order. Sometimes
the desire to be a part of a group led people to join many different
groups. As is seen on the stone above. This person belonged to
both the Masons and the Odd Fellows.
Most of these groups existed exclusively for men, but with
time many auxiliary offshoots popped up for women. The Odd
Fellows for instance began the
Daughters of Rebekah. These are some
of the variations on markers that can be found on graves. Notice the
three links with F-L-T on all three markers tying the group to
Odd Fellows.
Women belonging to the Rebekah's today need to have no ties to the
Odd Fellows ie. a husband belonging. Their credo is “To live
peaceably, do good unto all, as we have opportunity and especially to
obey the Golden Rule, Whatsoever ye would that others should do unto
you, do ye even so unto them.”
In the 19'th and 20'th centuries many fraternal orders began
to share the stage with civic groups and military
service affiliations. From Civil War ancestors to insurance
sellers, police to government workers. Sometimes you may find dozens
of these group within just a single cemetery. Here are a few
examples.
#1
The Knights of Pythias was the first
fraternal organization to receive a charter under an act of the
United States Congress.
#2
The Brotherhood of Locomotive Firemen was founded on December
1, 1873 in Port Jervis, New York by Joshua A. Leach and 10 other Erie
Railroad firemen.
#3
The Daughters of the American Revolution
(DAR) is a lineage-based membership organization for women who
are descended from a person involved in United States' independence.
This organization is a group for members who's ancestors fought in
the Civil War. The eagle marker on the left has Sons of UV in the
center, standing for
Sons of Union Veterans. There is a matching logo
carved into the headstone. The marker on the right has an ASUV. This
would indicate the Auxiliary of the group, therefore the ladies
version.
This grave is a great example of a husband and his wife who both
shared an interest in belonging to the same group. For some reason I
really like this one. I would have liked to have met this couple,
but
thanks to their stone and markers, I feel like I at least
understand more about them.